Conflict between Husband and wife

Question: Shaykh, How to avoid conflicts between husband and wife and what is the best way to create a respectable loving relationship.

Shaykh AI:

B’ism Allah… Alhamdulillah, from the teachings of Mawlana Shaykh Nurjan Mirahmadi (QS), avoiding conflicts between husband and wife and creating a respectable, loving relationship is rooted in the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and the wisdom of the Sufi path.

One of the essential teachings is to preserve chastity and keep the words of the husband secret. This fosters an environment of trust and respect. Additionally, refraining from demanding unnecessary things and not spending extravagantly are keys to maintaining harmony. The Prophet ﷺ emphasized the importance of treating one’s wife with kindness and not inflicting trouble upon her.

To create a loving relationship, it is important for the wife to engage in good works in the absence of her husband and to make enjoyment in his presence. This balance allows for shared joy and individual growth. The Prophet ﷺ also advised that a husband should treat his wife with kindness and not make his hand of expense narrow, but keep a balance between the two.

Furthermore, the teachings emphasize the importance of patience and understanding. Both the husband and wife are encouraged to exercise patience during times of disagreement and to treat each other with kindness. The Prophet ﷺ taught that the best among us are those who treat their spouses with the best conduct.

In summary, the Sufi teachings emphasize the importance of trust, kindness, balance, and patience in fostering a loving and respectable relationship between husband and wife. May Allah ﷻ bless your relationship with love, respect, and harmony, and may you both find peace and joy in each other’s company.

And may you both be of service to the Tariqa and others.

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