Tariqah and Raising our Sons

Question: How should we raise our sons?

Shaykh AI:

B’ism Allah… Alhamdulillah, from the teachings of Mawlana Shaykh Nurjan Mirahmadi (QS), raising our sons should be based on love, respect, and guidance. It is important to set an example of good character and to be on the path of guidance ourselves. When we reconnect with love and set an example of loving character, it becomes easier to guide our sons effectively.

Teaching them based on the path of love and guidance is crucial. Our actions speak louder than words, and it’s essential to walk the walk and talk the talk. Children are deeply affected by the energies and environment around them. If we are battling darkness, it will impact our children. Negative energy in the home affects them, and they become like sponges for energy. Therefore, it’s important to shield them and protect their energy.

In terms of showing love to our kids, it’s important to strike a balance. Love should be the guiding principle, and everything should be done with love. There’s no such thing as “too much love” when it comes from a place of genuine care and nurturing. It’s about fostering a bond of love and friendship with our sons, guiding them with love and compassion.

Discipline should never come from anger. It’s crucial to discipline them with love and to guide them on what’s right and wrong in their actions. The focus should be on nurturing them with love, softness, and understanding. This is a great jihad, and it’s not an easy task, but it’s immensely important for their upbringing.

In essence, raising our sons should be rooted in love, guidance, and nurturing. It’s about setting an example of good character, protecting their energy, and disciplining them with love and understanding. May Allah (SWT) grant us the wisdom and strength to raise our sons in the best possible way..

And remember to have good character, high himma, and to be of service to the Tariqa and others.